Misleadingly ADHD

I really love meeting with people that are on the same wavelength as me. Lately I feel like it's been happening a lot and it's amazing! Today I met with Monica Karam , who is a spirituality and clarity coach! Here are some of the take-home messages I got from our talk: My life GPS. These are basically my 5 core beliefs. Every time I am going to do anything I need to stop and ask myself does this "thing" reach all of the pit stops or attractions that I want to hit along my route, along my journey? It can also be seen as an adventure which is much more exciting because life is an adventure! When I go on this adventure, I will bring my GPS and I will make sure that I am hitting all of my pit stops. This is my road called Emotional Health; all of these pit stops will help me to obtain my end goal of self-expression. I will be true to who I am! <3 1- Self Care . I have already written a blog post about this so I'm going to save us all the boredom o...

Thanks for the insipration, Shania! And for just being an amazing person in general <3 After I figured out that I have Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria I really started to question all of my motives. Am I doing this because I am scared of rejection and the pain associated with it? Let me just give you a little background of what Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) is. During the Women's Palooza last week I listened to an AMAZING webinar called "Shame and Fear of Rejection" with Bill Dodson. The key points from the webinar as to what Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria is: Dysphoria means unbearable. People with RSD perceive or anticipate that they have disappointed someone. We feel intense pain; intense, unbearable pain. --> This leads to shame and bad self-esteem Shame. This is "the master emotion". Shame is what holds you back and isolates you. It prevents you from getting help. We see ourselves in the reactions of other people. People are constantl...

So today I went to the doctor for the second time after my diagnosis. The first time I went to the doctor after I was diagnosed (two months ago), we briefly spoke about how ADHD medication could be helpful and that I should go for a blood test. I knew that I didn't want medication at the time and she wasn't willing to begin to try me on ADHD medications before receiving a paper confirming my diagnosis. Let me give you a little back story. I had a doctor in the West Island after I left my paediatrician. He is an older man and he was my grandparents doctor, my parents doctor and naturally he became my doctor. He was helping me with my anxiety. I still knew that there was something "off" and I was trying to get to the bottom of it. At one point I even mentioned ADHD. I remember telling him that I would walk from room to room in my house forgetting what I was doing. He told me that was normal, and that ADHD was a fad. Naturally, I believed him. He is my doctor after a...

I can't get over how much of a revelation this is for me!! My entire life I thought that I had a lack of energy, I was always tired and I would become super anxious that I had some sort of health issue or any of the other million explanations I came up with for myself. GUESS WHAT?! 26 years later.. (after my adhd diagnosis) I have figured it out!! I am 98% sure that this feeling that I have always attributed to being tired is actually boredom! Whaaat?! How does that make any sense?! The symptoms Agitation. I get extremely agitated when I am for example, at the mall. I hate it. I love new clothes and little gadgets that you can find at the mall, but I highly dislike the mall. To be honest, I am not sure why. My assumptions are that it is too hot, too many people, it is too noisy, the lights are too bright. These things aren't the end of the world. Why can't I put up with these things? And you would think that all of this stimulus would make me less bored? I guess ...

This sounds a little bit silly but it is so true; Track your time! What do you spend your time doing? Do you know? I dare you to try being mindful of how you are spending your time. Try it for a day or two. I have been doing it and it has been super helpful! I found out how much time I spend in front of my computer and on my phone; too much! I don't get anything rewarding out of going and checking Instagram or refreshing Facebook. Once to twice a day on social media is more than enough! How am I staying off social media? Honestly, I am not. It is super hard for me to open my phone and not automatically go to Facebook or Instagram once I have responded to the txt or answered the Facebook message. Our phones are very distracting, especially for us ADHD minds! My solutions that I have implemented and will try to implement: Schedule time for social media (use your daily planner  to stay on track). Maybe checking social media can be your "dopamine hit", or your rew...

From listening to podcasts, reading all things ADHD and from my own experience it is pretty clear that exercise has a HUGE impact on managing ADHD. My whole life I have been on team sports; ringuette, soccer and softball. I would not take that back for anything in the world. I love team sports and I truly believe that they have played a large role in forming the person that I am today. The amount of amazing friendships that I have made with genuine, down to earth people is irreplaceable! That said, I have not developed any sort of self-motivation this way. Going to the gym is hard for me. Going out for a simple, leisurely bike ride is something that I am not able to get myself to do. These are things that I now need and crave. I NEED exercise everyday. My brain needs exercise to function to its full capacity/capability. How do I make exercise interesting?! I need to find something that I can get myself to do everyday. I envy my friend/ex. He could get up in the morning, go to t...

In the past year and a half I have really been neglecting myself. I worked way too much and was so exhausted I could barely stay afloat. People would tell me "welcome to the real world". Full time job, buying groceries, making healthy meals, paying bills, cleaning the apartment, exercising, were all so new to me. I would keep on pushing myself because I thought that this was what being an adult what supposed to feel like.  WRONG.  There is no "supposed to feel". I am on my way to accepting this and honestly, my ADHD diagnosis has really helped me to take a huge leap onto that path. How am I going to overcome the self-neglect? First of all how am I going to spin "overcome self-neglect" positively? I am going to call it. "Practice Self Care". I'm still not happy with the words, I don't think that "Self Care" has a fun ring to it. Maybe I will come up with something else by the time I finish writing this blog.   I do not...